Today I celebrate my third wedding anniversary.  (Happy Anniversary Julia!)  There's a lot of things I've learned during this time and not just that I like to eat twelve times as much bacon as my wife.  

I've learned the answer to the ultimate question in a marriage - How do we make a marriage work?

Ya see, the whole point is - everything in this universe exists for God.  So now we have to ask ourselves - how do you make your marriage exist for God? 

Well, how do we glorify God? 

We make God happy when we strive for the fruit of the spirit: love, joy peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Gal. 5:22-23).  Not only would God be happy, but if you had love, joy, peace, etc., you too would obviously be a very happy person.

When your focus is God, then one's goal isn't trying to make yourself happy, but God.  When we are trying to make God happy, we ultimately make ourselves happy.

If you and your spouse are trying to be more Christ-like (love, joy, etc.) then your marriage can only get better. 

It's like that lame analogy, but it's totally true.  It's like a triangle.  You and your spouse are the points at the bottom, and God is the point at the top.  The closer you slide your points to the top (God) the closer the points get to each other. 

So, to grow closer to each other - you must grow closer to God.  And having a ton of bacon at the ready never hurt either.